4 Ways To Not Let Your Emotions Sink the Ship
I would consider myself an emotional person. That is, I am deeply in touch with my emotions and I have spent most of my life feeling with my heart. All the way from creating art to imagining where I want to be five years from now, it is who I am and it’s one of my biggest strengths. However, it can also be a double edged sword just as it is for someone who is the opposite of me: on one hand, I am greatly connected to how I feel and effortlessly express it, whereas someone who isn’t as emotionally connected might have a more difficult time understanding how they feel or how to express it.
I often struggle with how to separate the feeling from the logic, mostly in the heat of the moment. Feeling is intuition based for me and that isn’t always logical. My superpower emotions have the ability to take me to new heights in my life as well as sink my ship to unhelpful lows. Do you feel me?
While I think both emotion and logic are so important, I think if we can learn to connect the two together, to follow our heart and then think with our head we can excel our learning, decision making and even prevent reactions and create powerful, thoughtful responses. It can save us alot of energy, emotion and time if we know how to manage our emotions. I asked my husband Mark (my favorite logical left-brain and the yin to my yang) what his top 4 tips are for tuning into logic when you feel emotion taking over you.
Stay tuned for my tips for the logical thinkers on how to similarly connect the heart to the strong logic.
Ash and I have had many conversations about the differences between the way we think. We started to explore the differences in the way each of us thinks and have come up with a few key points for how to approach situations with more logic vs emotion.
1. Don’t react before you think
This one is easier said then done. People who are more emotional often take action based on how they feel which does not always lead to the best outcome. Take a few moments to breathe, collect your thoughts and wait for the emotion to subside. You can then think more objectively about the situation.
2. Think of the parts, not the whole
Ashley and I have had numerous conversations about all the hats she wears running her business. I have to say I didn’t realize all that she did until I started working with her. Often she feels overwhelmed with having to get everything done in the time frame she imposes on herself. I have suggested to her to first write things down then prioritize them. Thinking of each task by itself and one at a time rather than everything all at once is much less overwhelming and less stressful.
3. Care less about what others think
Caring too much about what others think can prevent you from being the person you really want to be. I know most of us want to be received well by others but we often put too much emphasis on what other people’s possible opinions are of ourselves. This can shape us in the direction of conformity rather than individuality and can also keep up from taking risks. Caring less about what others think require self confidence which is my next point.
4. Don’t let negative emotions erode your confidence
Every time I stand in front of a heavy weight I am about to lift I tell myself “I can do it”. You may be thinking well, I am not a weight lifter but that doesn’t matter. If I told myself I can’t do it or if I had doubts that I could lift it I would probably get that result. If you tell yourself you can’t get that job promotion, lose weight, find a partner etc then you will never get the outcome you want. Once you believe in yourself you can then take the necessary action to get the outcome you want.
Are you a left brain (logical, analytical and objective), right brain (intuitive, thoughtful and subjective) or a balance of the two?